things pastors should never say to a congregation
In American Christian culture, there are several hackneyed phrases that have grown commonplace. Some of them are outstanding.
I’m pretty confident they’re all doing it for the right reasons.
However, there are some things I wish preachers would refrain from saying.
These phrases have become so embedded in our culture that we don’t even realize we’re saying them. However, words are important.
Every word we communicate from the platform should be carefully considered.
For daring to imply that any of these phrases aren’t the best, some of you will want to pick up your pitchforks and burn me at the stake. Please understand that I am not mocking anyone. All of these are things is that my Dad has done before. However, after more consideration, I believe we can do better.
A minister is a person authorized by a church or other religious institution to conduct responsibilities such as teaching religious beliefs, performing services such as marriages, baptisms, and funerals, or otherwise providing spiritual advice to the community in Christianity. The phrase comes from the Latin word minister (“servant”, “attendant”).
The concept of a priesthood is emphasized in Catholic, Orthodox (Eastern and Oriental), Anglican, and Lutheran churches. In other denominations, such as Baptist, Methodist, and Calvinist churches (Congregationalist and Presbyterian), the term “minister” usually refers to a member of the ordained clergy who leads a congregation or works in a parachurch ministry; this person may be an elder (presbyter), pastor, preacher, bishop, or chaplain.
Many pastors use the term “The Reverend” in ecclesiastical addresses; however, some use “Pastor” or “Father” instead.
NOTE: I’m not trying to criticize the preachers, pastors, or even the minister here, I’m just sharing my thought, about these common mistakes, if they can be addressed.
So here are 15 things I hope pastors would refrain from saying.
15 things a pastor should not say
1. Please, God, be with us today.
Is it possible that God went away and didn’t tell us? I believe that God is constantly present, all of the time.
Even if you don’t realize it, he’s already here.
We don’t want to imply that God isn’t constantly present when we speak this phrase. We mean that we want people’s hearts and minds to be drawn closer to God’s.
We’d like to sense his presence.
We want God to speak to people via music and preaching so that they hear what God wants them to hear.
That’s fantastic! So, instead, why don’t we say that?
2. Christianity Isn’t a Religious Movement.
Yes, it is correct. Christianity is a religion in the strictest sense of the word.
In world religion classes at universities, students study Christianity alongside other faith systems.
I see what you’re trying to express now. You want to emphasize that it’s more about having a relationship with God than following a set of laws.
Consider this phrase from the perspective of an outsider. Saying that Christianity isn’t a religion offends people who don’t believe in God or who are distrustful of any structured belief system.
Christianity is a belief system. Even if I believe it is the one and only true religion, it is still a religion. It’s believing in a higher power.
Simply check up on the definition of religion.
A religion, according to Dictionary.com, is “a set of beliefs concerning the cause, nature, and purpose of the universe, especially when considered as the creation of a superhuman agency or agencies, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs, usually involving devotional and ritual observances, and often containing a moral code governing the conduct of human affairs.”
3. Christianity Isn’t a Religion.
“The Christian religion is an example.” It’s an attempt to redefine the term “religion” to say that Christianity isn’t one.
I know how appealing the term “Christianity isn’t a religion; it’s a relationship” is that alliteration appeals to all of us preachers. However, it is technically incorrect.
“Christianity is more than just a religion,” we could say instead. Isn’t it true that “it’s a relationship”?
Yes, Christianity is more than just a set of rules to obey.
The gospel’s beauty is that it saves us even when we completely fail to fulfill all of God’s standards.
However, there are still some guidelines to follow.
We can’t simply ignore the harsh commands found in the Old and New Testaments. The Bible’s moral “rules” are quite significant.
So, no, observing all of the rules is not the objective of Christianity. But if we love God, we will do our best to obey him and keep his commands (John 14:15Open in Logos Bible Software (if available); 1 John 5:2-3 Open in Logos Bible Software (if available); 2 John 1:6Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)).
We’ll come up short. We’ll be woefully underprepared. However, we must be careful not to spread antinomianism, in which all of God’s commands and moral law are disregarded.
So, while it’s not untrue to state that Christianity isn’t about obeying a set of laws, I’d advise you to approach it with caution.
Please make sure you explain what you mean if you say this.
4. We Are Going To Reach The World At Church-.
Most churches don’t even reach their community, according to statistics.
So it’s a little strange to hear the majority of them state that their congregation is “reaching the world for Jesus.”
The whole Church, not simply your church, will reach out to the world.
God’s redemptive plan encompasses far more than a single church. Teach people to think about the church as a whole, not just your particular type of gathering.
5. Notice how this verse ends with an exclamation point. It’s there for a reason…
This one irritates me since the exclamation point is missing from the original text.
In the original texts, there are no exclamation points.
To anyone who knows about this, you come across as a novice. And you’re deceiving anyone who doesn’t realize it.
Some highly talented, God-seeking intellectuals made these translation decisions. However, we should avoid making an exclamation point that isn’t in the original text the focal point of our statement.
6. My Smokin’ Hot Wife
I admire how much you adore your wife and think her appealing, but you also mention how lovely she is on the inside.
Not simply her looks, but her godly character should be praised.
I don’t want my daughter to grow up hearing you say that a woman’s looks are all that matters. The rest of the world gives her too much of it.
In addition, I’ve noticed a trend of many preachers bragging about their sex life. Stop bragging about how much sex you and your wife have.
We don’t need or want to hear about sex unless you’re preaching about it and it adds to the point of the sermon.
7. God Told Me…
Walk this phrase back unless God genuinely spoke to you in an undeniable way. Don’t utter anything in God’s name that he didn’t say. Don’t misuse God’s name (Exod 20:7Open in Logos Bible Software (if available)).
If you don’t believe you heard a message from God, explain why you believe you did.
“Deep in my soul, I felt that God was speaking to me…”, for example. or “I was reading my Bible when this verse caught my eye, and I knew it was something God wanted me to know…” or “I was praying when this thought came to me, and I’m rather certain it came from God.”
God continues to communicate today, and we should pay attention. He usually speaks through his Word. However, be cautious about putting words into his mouth if you aren’t convinced he spoke them to you.
False prophets are not portrayed in a positive light in the Bible. So don’t be one of them.
8. Allow God to use you
The purpose of being “used by God” is excellent, as it is with all of these words. We’re implying that God will use your life to carry out his message. And that’s a lovely thing.
We should all strive to connect our lives and purposes with God’s so that we can accomplish as much for him as possible.
In today’s world, though, being “used” sounds like abuse. It has a bad connotation if I claim my boss, friend, wife, or father used me.
When someone is used, it implies that they are treated as an object rather than a person. We should put things to good use and cherish people. People should not be used.
9. So perhaps the phrase “God using you” should be rephrased.
You are not used by God. He is the one who leads, loves, cares for, provides for, protects, guides, shelters, restores, heals, saves, disciplines, and battles for you.
He doesn’t make use of you. He works with and through you.
The Christian life is a heavenly relationship that guides your steps and transforms you to be more like God, rather than emptying oneself to be used as a tool. Do you see the distinction?
10. Turn with me to
Another: If you have your Bible, please turn with me to…correct me if I’m wrong, but shouldn’t we have our bibles at church?!?!?
11. “Last but not least. Finally.” (This is the fifth time)
Never announce to the congregation that you’re almost done. They won’t pay attention to anything else you say. But if you do, be sure you keep your word.
12. “That makes me think of a joke.”
Some may argue that the pulpit isn’t the right place for jokes, but it’s virtually always true that one you grab on the heat of the moment will land you in trouble.
13. “Until I die or retire, God has called me here.”
These are not decisions made by a single preacher. This comment is a clear challenge to anybody, whether friends or foes, who believe the minister’s tenure should have an end date.
14. “All right! It’s great to see some of you who haven’t been since Christmas (or Easter) last year!”
Why would a preacher chastise individuals for attending church? Instead, extend a warm welcome and provide reasons for them to return.
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15. “I’m not a theologian.”
This is at the top of my pastor’s list of vexing preacher remarks, which he also teaches at the seminary. “Then shut up and sit down!” he says to the clergyman who says this.
The truth is that every pastor should serve as the congregation’s resident theologian.
Things pastors should never say to a congregation: My thought
That concludes my tirade on things I wish pastors wouldn’t say, but what are your thoughts?
Is it possible that I’m exaggerating? Is it possible that I’m being overly picky?
If not, what are some other terms that we use frequently in the church that may not accurately communicate our true beliefs?
Please let me know in the comments section below.